Today I can reflect on it with calm understanding. But at the time nearly every effort people made to help seemed to make the pain and horror worse. Visitations at the funeral home were two afternoons and two evenings. My beloved children were just a few feet away in their caskets. The funeral was on […]
I was raised in the Catholic Church and have always had a strong connection with God. But the sudden, tragic death of my beloved son and daughter raised questions that I had never before considered. I had always believed God created heaven, earth and humans but made us responsible for the conduct of our lives. […]
Hard as the first year is, harder still is what happens in all the years that follow, when part of you forgets for a moment here or there what you’ve lost, even as the rest knows that in your deepest bones you can never for a day, an hour, an instant, forget.
The worst shopping trip I have ever had was the one to select the clothes my children would be buried in. We had already gone to the funeral home to choose their caskets. On the day of the funeral, the caskets were placed at the front of the chapel. People crowded the hall of the […]
The night of the accident, a doctor called our house to ask if he could have Anne and Adam’s corneas. We knew how valuable they could be to someone. Years before, my husband lost an eye playing hockey. Afterwards, he needed cataract surgery in his other eye and then suffered a detached retina that almost […]
We left police examiners at the horrifying accident scene as another officer drove us to the hospital. I remember him wiping away tears. Family members soon arrived to share our shock and sorrow. My husband went to see our children, my daughter already dead. Her arm was severed on impact when the car hit the […]
With five lively kids in our van, we were heading home for a barbeque after a delightful summer Sunday in the city. Then the crash. In a horrifying split second, our lives were shattered. Anne, my precious first born, was dead just before her 13th birthday. Funny little Adam, my six-year-old, was fatally injured. Handsome […]
A CHILD OF MINE I’ll lend to you a little while A Child of Mine, He said For you to love while he lives And mourn when he is dead It may be six or seven years Or twenty two or three But will you til I call him back Take care of him for […]